In the beginning of the year I had 3 best friends Beverly, Claire, and Ashley. We had just recently added Ashley to our group and didn't know her that well. Beverly never seemed to like Ashley and would always state she would rather us not be friends with her. The more time went on the nastier Beverly's remarks got about Ashley. It turns out Beverly was right Ashley was bad news and back stabbed all of us, gave away our secrets, and said such mean things behind Beverly's back Beverly was crying for hours. We stopped talking to her and now it is a couple months later. Beverly has recently started drinking (a lot) having sex with multiple guys wearing too much makeup and slutty clothes and smoking weed. She started making remarks to me behind Claires back about how she is ugly because she doesnt wear makeup and she is prude and dresses poorly (because she is conservative.) I am the type of person who is brutaly honest and I saw my best friend is starting to mess up her life, and I express my opinions about how I think shes acting innaprorately and looks trashy and although my intentions are good I do admit things come out a bit mean. Beverly just tells me she doesnt care and I let go of the subject. Randomly she stops talking to me and Claire. She starts talking behind our backs and calling me a bitch. She starts telling my secrets and even posted videos on tumblr saying nasty things about us. The worst part is though she went upto Ashley and told her she had nothing to with the fight and never hated her, that me and Claire forced her to act like that. Really she always hated Ashley the most. I am hurt/angry any advice? :/
That is awful. & I honestly know what its like to have a friend completely turn into someone different. & that hurts cause I know that you want to help your friend & bring her back to her old ways.
But my advice for you with this whole thing, & you most likely won’t like it. Is just to let it go. There is no point in trying to keep someone close to you if they want to start talking smack. & if she is telling the other girl that you guys were the one’s talking trash… then I’d let her believe it.
I live by this motto: ‘It doesn’t matter what people think at the end of the day, as long as you know it’s not true.’
I know when me & my friend for four years went split, it was traumatic. But I got my self a journal & all I would do for like weeks on end was vent about how I just wanted to help her & how what those people were saying were complete lies. Then I burnt, I let all those bad memories burn, I didn’t want to remember those bad memories I just wanted to remember the good ones, & that is what you should do. (:
I hope this helped. You really weren’t direct about what you needed help with so I just took a wack at it.